A Different View of Helping

"You don't like him, but you're trying to change him."

Yes, helping. It's a big part of me. Problem is, even with the best of intentions, what I think is helpful might not be either helpful or perceived as helpful.

The comment caught me off-guard, to be honest. I wasn't expect it. I was helping, dammit, helping!

I was talking about helping a mutual friend who seemed unable to hear the feedback many of us were giving, and was thinking maybe I should try a more direct way of saying his chosen path wasn't a good one (as if I can believe any scenario of me with tact exists).

And yet, and yet, the road to hell and all of that.

Maybe my helping really isn't. And the change that needs to happen is with me.