Ever done a burpee?

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Yeah, quirky goals, that's part of the charm.

The sum of the first n integers, which is to say, 1+ 2+ ... + n is (n * (n+1)) / 2.

Which is to say, if you do 1 of something on January 1st, 2 of something on January 2nd, 3 of something on January 3rd, and continue in this pattern until you do 366 of something on December 31st of this year, you will have done that thing 67161 times in 2016.

Ever done a burpee?

Yeah, well, the challenge is n per day where n is the day of the year.

Today, I did one burpee.

One.

This will be an interesting challenge.

Might as well be clean

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The hotel room was colder than the temperature outside when I arrived, which meant the room's temperature was likely somewhere in the 50˚F - 59˚F range. I turned on the heater to 74˚, but the room didn't seem to heat up. The heater running at 80˚ for two hours did the trick. The room was finally at 72˚. I went to bed and to sleep.

This morning, as I was in the shower, there was a knocking on the hotel room door. I didn't answer, I was in the shower. Checkout time was another 30 minutes away. I continued showering.

The knocking became a pounding. The pounding became louder. The pounding sounded like two people were kicking the door. I stayed in the shower, rinsed my hair.

The pounding stopped. The door was unlocked, and opened hard. I was still in the shower.

The door was stopped by the chain. If the person opening the door had wanted to break it, I suspect said person could have. I was in the shower.

After I had finished my shower, dried off, and went into the hotel room, it was empty, my stuff was as I had left it, the chain was still on the door, the door was still closed. I dressed, gathered my things, left the room, checked out of the hotel, met a friend for lunch, and told him about my latest hotel adventure.

He looked at me askew. "You have a lot of weird stuff happen to you."

Yep. This sort of thing happens all the time. Which is why I finish my shower before addressing it. I might as well address it on my time, and be clean with lovely smelling hair when I address someone in a huff for breaking into a hotel room I have paid for until noon.

New toy! New toy!

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Andy purchased an infrared camera for his phone, so that he could find where the cold leaks are in his house. It arrived today.

He promptly started measuring everything in the house.

Including me.

I am cracking up at this.

90% is baggage

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Okay, consider this scenario: You've been living in a house for 15 years. The tub is backed up. The garage utility sink is backed up.

This has happened before. One time, the backup was really bad, so you had a couple pipes replaced. The pipes under the house are an odd collection, with a couple of difficult joints which cause backups more frequently. You know where all the clean-outs are in the house.

Now, you call a plumber to snake the lines. He arrives two days later. You explain what is happening. He seems to understand, says he'll take 10 minutes, and begins to snake the plumbing from tub.

After 20 minutes, he's still going.

So, you walk into the bathroom, and offer, "Hey, so, the lines are kinda tricky in this house. The best clean-out is on the roof. Would you like to see where the other ones are?"

The plumber turns to you and responds, "Are you a plumber?"

You answer, "No."

He asks, "Have you ever been a plumber?"

You answer, "No."

He responds in a condescending, asshole way, "I am, and I can do my job. I know where to clean out. I can do it from the tub."

You bite your tongue and leave, a simmering rage growing.

Of course, you realize later that the correct answer to the first question is, "Irrelevant, I've lived in this house for 15 years, and know its history. I also know how the pipes are configured in the house, and you don't. So, would you like help or not?"

Or maybe, "YES, I WAS! Now, would you like help, or not?"

Or maybe, "Yes, Plumbing Company? I'm calling about the plumber you sent over? He was rude and condescending to me when I offered help. I like your company, and would like to continue doing business with you, but not with this particular individual. When could you send over a different person, say, the one who was here two weeks ago?"

Regardless, the correct response was not to allow that growing rage from allowing someone you are paying to do work for you to talk to you in a condescending, asshole way.

But, here's the thing.

The guy was being an asshole because he was frustrated, he'd already showed up 30 minutes after the 2 hour window of arrival time had passed, the job that was supposed to be an easy clean-out wasn't actually cleaning out, and a woman (OH MY GOD A WOMAN MIGHT KNOW MORE THAN HE DOES) was offering help so she must have been thinking he was incompetent at his job (she wasn't, she just knew more about the situation than he did, and the "she" part is irrelevant, TBH).

Who knows what else was going on?

Maybe he wanted to be home already to hang out with his kid, and he knew he had another job to do after this one, since it was already 4:50pm and he was supposed to be done between 2 and 4pm? Maybe he had already been written up for being an ass, and was frustrated because he is an ass? Maybe this was his first time out by himself, and he was just caught in a situation where, hey, he wasn't doing well? Maybe his rent was jacked up $500 this month and he was stressed about his finances? Maybe this woman reminded him of his mother who never gave him the approval he so desperately craved? Maybe his girlfriend dumped him?

Maybe lots of things completely and totally irrelevant to the situation were happening in this guy's life.

None of that excuses his asshole behaviour, sure, but it goes a long way to explaining it.

We carry a lot of baggage around with us. We react to things through the filter of our experiences. Only 10%* of our reactions are about the situation actually in front of us. 90%* of it is the baggage we carry around.

In the heat of the moment, we don't see this. We don't see the filter in the answer, we just react.

And we 90% react through the baggage that we carry around.

So, given this scenario next time, my plan is to smile, and remind the plumber that my profession is irrelevant, and ask again if he'd like help.

All while reminding myself that his reaction is not about me, it's about his baggage.

Of note, said plumber took two hours to "pop the pipes." Eventually, he called in another guy, who DID climb on the roof and clear the pipes from the roof clean-out.

So, yeah.

* Numbers scientifically proven to be pulled out of someone's ass.

Some Girls Are

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And my pile of to-read books just dropped by one! So much for reading "only" double of my original 2015 goal of one book a week. Go for 52, hit 105.

I picked up this book after reading the Book Riot article about how a single parent managed to ban a book without going through a review process. The banned book was Some Girls Are, about bullying in high school and a bully who has fallen from grace, and is now on the receiving end of the actions she inflicted upon others.

As I was trying not to spend money on books (a near impossible task), I tried to get it from my library. No go.

I asked Mom to try her library. No go.

Eventually, on a night of drinking too much whiskey, where "too much" is defined as "more than one shot," I hit the buy button on all the books in my Amazon cart, and ended up with a stack of 24 books to read. Including this one.

I read it last night.

I will fully admit that if I were the mother of a kid in high school today, I would struggle to believe this kind of behaviour exists, that my child would be doing it, or that people so young can be so ugly in their actions. Which is not to say on an intellectual basis, I dispute this behaviour exists, I totally believe it exists. I just don't WANT it to exist.

I was an oblivious kid in school. I also went to a really big high school. I also went to a really big high school where most of the kids did NOT grow up with each other. All of these factors meant I was unaware if any of this was happening in my school, much less experience it. I am really sad that such behaviour could exist, and somewhat enraged that, rather than say, hey, this exists, maybe we should reflect on it and, as difficult as the book is to read and the ideas to consider, let's do just that, the mother stuck her head in the sand and forced the book to be banned.

The book itself is an easy read. The ideas in the book, rape, bullying, tormenting, death, are not easy. And that's what makes the book worth reading.

Highly recommended to read and think about.

I have a copy available for friends to pass along.

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